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How to choose the right coffin or casket

You go through life choosing clothes, cars, furniture and home decor that makes a statement; why should it be any different when it comes to your final journey?

This guide helps you choose the right coffin or casket.  We review the differences in design, materials, and their suitability for cremation, burial and greener funerals.

Who is this guide for? 

  • Anyone who wants to know what choices are available for coffins and caskets
  • Anyone who is thinking about personalising their choice of coffin or caskets
  • Anyone who wants a prepaid funeral plan and is curious about the types of coffin or casket included

Reading time:

 4 mins


What is the difference between a coffin and a casket?

Have you ever imagined your own funeral?  

Are mourners lining the streets, and TV newscasters celebrating your example of humanity at its  finest? Or maybe no-one’s there. Whatever you’ve imagined, there’s one major detail missing from your fantasy funeral. No, not the dying part.

Picture this… you are planning ahead and you are standing in the funeral director's showroom being shown the latest models. The funeral director lifts a lid to show you the plush white velvet button-backed interior and asks you whether you prefer the look of a coffin or a casket. And then you realise that you don't know the difference - except that one is hugely more expensive than the other in this scenario.

So, what is the difference and how do you choose the right coffin or casket?

Let's start with the basics.

A coffin

A coffin has six sides and is tapered at the foot end. The sides can be plain or panelled.  The lid can be flat, or go up to three tiers in height.

Coffins tend to be cheaper.

A casket

A casket has four sides and is rectangular in shape.  The lid can be split, which means the top half can be left open during a viewing or funeral service.  

Caskets tend to be more expensive.

(The term 'casket' can also refer to the box-shaped container that houses someone's ashes, following a cremation, but those are obviously a lot smaller!)

Both coffin and caskets come in a huge range of different materials and finishes

The interior materials, colours and prints used for the linings and pillows are also varied. You can have pretty much anything you want. Casket interiors tend to be more luxurious - typically being upholstered in a soft brushed velvet or crepe material, including the inside of the lid.

The coffin is more frequently chosen for funerals in the UK.   Perhaps this is owing to the British reserve - caskets are more 'showy' (see American TV shows for examples), or down to the fact that coffins are typically cheaper.  Funerals can be expensive.  

The average cost of a basic funeral in 2021  is £4,184 (rising to £9,263 when you factor in the funeral extras and legal bill for estate administration).  There are plenty of people who won't have the money for this unexpected expense (1 in 7 go into debt).  

What are the different types of coffins and caskets?

Coffins and caskets come in a variety of materials and designs. 

  • Wood effect  (made from MDF or similar, and wrapped in paper that looks like wood)
  • Wood veneer 
  • Solid wood 
  • Wool 
  • Cardboard 
  • Wicker (made from e.g. willow, seagrass, bamboo, banana leaf, pandanus)

Caskets are also available in metal, which makes them more durable and suitable for vault burials.  They come in a variety of finishes too,  including gold, bronze and copper.

How much do coffins and caskets cost in 2021?

As you might expect, prices vary massively - from cheap as chips to steeper than Everest!  Some examples of typical costs:

You can get a basic wood effect or cardboard coffin starting from £200  

You can get a simple wicker coffin from £300.  

You can buy an American steel casket for around £950 rising to as much as £25,000, depending on the material and interior.


Sources for average pricing:   About the Funeral, London Coffin Company, The Coffin Company, Comparethecoffin

What type of coffins and caskets are included in a prepaid funeral plan?

Each set prepaid funeral plan includes one of three types of coffin.  The types  can be broadly categorised as: 'Basic', 'Standard' and 'High quality'.  The funeral plan details will generally include the coffin material, e.g. wood veneer, solid wood, wicker.  

The reason the descriptions are so vague is because no-one knows when the funeral will take place and the type of coffins and caskets available today, quite possibly won't be available when the time comes.

The type of coffin almost always matches the level of service benefits provided in the plan, i.e. the 'Basic' lowest cost wood effect or natural eco coffin will be included in the lowest cost and simplest in the range of funeral plans on offer.

Caskets are not usually included in a set plan.  See our Top tips below if a casket is what you want.

Top tips for getting the coffin or casket you want when buying a prepaid funeral plan

If the coffin included in your set funeral plan doesn't match what you had in mind, here are a few things you can do:

  1. 1
    Make a request
    Have a chat with the funeral plan provider.   If it's possible to personalise the plan, ask them to update your funeral plan notes with the details of the coffin or casket you would like if it is available at the time of the funeral, and that doesn't incur an additional charge for your family. Or if your budget allows, you might even like to think about purchasing a coffin in advance, may be even personalising it.  And providing the plan provider agrees it's fit for purpose at the time it's needed, ask them to use that instead.
  2. 2
    Tailor your funeral plan
    Ask the plan provider if you can tailor your set funeral plan.
    Swap the coffin type (e.g. 'Basic' for 'Standard') or let them know the specific coffin or casket type you want and would be willing to pay extra for now, or make a contribution towards - this means that any shortfall would have to be paid for at the time of the funeral.     
  3. 3
    Change your funeral plan
    If you are set on using a particular funeral plan provider, it may be cheaper and better value to upgrade your plan if you want a better standard of coffin, e.g. go for the 'Gold' funeral plan with the extra services included, instead of the 'Silver' funeral plan.   As with all major purchases, research and compare your options before you buy.

What is an eco-friendly coffin or casket?

Eco-friendly coffins and caskets are 100% biodegradable and made from sustainable sources, e.g. recycled materials constructed from Forest Stewardship Council (FSC) sourced timber. Eco coffins do not contain plastic or metal.

Types of coffin and casket linings include jute and unbleached organic cotton. Handles can be wooden or made from rope. Lids are fastened with closing toggles or poles.

Eco-friendly coffins are locally sourced in the UK and imported with consideration to the environment, such as Russian Doll style (one inside another, insider another, inside another …).

Pebble coffin & urn
by Pebblewood


Adult pebble coffin shown in use as a coffee table (left).  Commission only.  

Matching urns available from £425, and keepsake urns from £215.

Soft coffins and shrouds:  The alternatives to traditional coffins and caskets

An alternative to a coffin or casket is a soft coffin or shroud. There are various choices of materials for these too, such as cotton, bamboo yarn and wool felt, with integrated handles. The shroud can be carried with the aid of a willow stretcher.

Woollen shroud 
by Bellacouche

Prices from £835

Which coffins and caskets are suitable for cremation and burial?

Any type of coffin is suitable for burial.  Only eco-friendly biodegradable coffins will be accepted at natural burial grounds.   And metal caskets are suitable for burial only and repatriation.

If you like the idea of making your funeral as green as possible and would like to be cremated, an  untreated solid wood coffin or casket is the best option as it takes less energy to burn than wicker and cardboard.

Can you buy a coffin in advance of the funeral?

Yes, you can.

For those who want to think outside the box, so to speak, your coffin or casket could be purchased long before you need it for its intended purpose and could be used in the meantime as a bespoke piece of furniture, such as a bookcase, a coffee table, wine rack or a blanket box.  Any of these (which, incidentally, have all been done) would undoubtedly become a talking point.

Shelves for Life by William Warren
Shelves For Life
by William Warren


At the time of the funeral, the shelves can be taken apart and reassembled to make your coffin.

The brass plate (on the bottom shelf) is for inscription with your name and dates.


Email if you would like measurements and instructions to build your own. (Include your height and build). 

How to personalise a coffin or casket 

Even if you decide to run with the coffin or casket's original function, you can still personalise the design if you buy it ahead of time or your family can decorate it before the funeral.  It could be painted in your favourite colour, with a memorable scene, or just paint the coffin lid in blackboard paint for the mourners to write messages.  Or how about covering it in decoupage using album covers, sheets of music, sentimental photos, football programmes ...

Glitter coffins

Glitter coffins from The Glitter Coffin Company

Off the shelf out-of-the-ordinary choices include sparkling glitter coffins in every hue imaginable, and for the more glamorous effect, a coffin or casket covered in Swarovski crystals.

'Picture' coffins and caskets are popular. This is where the coffin or casket is wrapped in one of many existing printed designs of flowers, animals, transport, sport and hobbies.  You can even create your own design from your favourite photos and  photos of memorabilia.

All the above mentioned off the shelf options are available with matching ashes caskets.

Useful RESOURCES

Natural coffins
Woollen coffins - Natural Legacy
Natural coffins - JC Atkinson
Pebble coffin –  Pebblewood Urns
Woollen felt coffins and shrouds - Bellacouche

Decorated coffins
Glitter coffins -  Glitter Coffin Company
Crystal coffins -  Colourful Coffins


Picture coffins
Picture coffins -  JC Atkinson
Picture coffins -  Colourful Coffins


DIY
Flatpack coffin -  Coffin Club
Shelves for Life -  William Warren

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How to write your own eulogy

The task of writing a eulogy when a loved one dies often falls to a close family member or friend.  It can feel especially daunting because it’s frequently at short notice, and there’s only one chance to do it well.

This guide offers an alternative to leaving that burden behind, so that your loved ones are not lost for words when they’re already dealing with your loss.   We’ll show you how to create a eulogy you can be proud of, even if you’ve never written one before.  That’s one thing we can take the grief out of.  

Who is this guide for? 

  • Anyone who wants to leave a special message for mourners at their own funeral 
  • Anyone who wants to improve a eulogy they are planning or have already written 
  • Anyone thinking about leaving instructions or some pointers for their own eulogy

Reading time:

 3.5 mins


What is the purpose of a eulogy?

Most funeral services include a eulogy and it’s more than just a pretty speech.  When it’s written well, the eulogy gives a flavour of the deceased’s personality and journey through life.  At a time of heightened emotions, the eulogy can also ease the pain a little and help people to grieve.   

Why it makes sense to write your own eulogy

No one wants to hear a eulogy that starts with: “I didn’t know the deceased well, but I like to think…”  But lots of people have.  

Writing your own eulogy is not only a kindness to others, it also gives you the opportunity to select your favourite anecdotes to be remembered by.  Nobody knows you better than you. 

You get to tell your story your own way.  That could mean paying tribute to loved ones and friends, sharing some passions, or acknowledging some failings.  Many of us go through life feeling we’ve been misunderstood, but this is one way of definitively setting the record straight!  A good eulogy conveys the deceased’s character and gives solace to the bereaved.  

What is the structure of a eulogy?

Before you start writing your own eulogy, you need to understand the nuts and bolts.

 A eulogy typically lasts around five minutes and is a central part of the funeral or memorial service; on paper that equates to roughly a page and a half of text.  

Now that you understand what the eulogy is for and the ideal length, you can break it down into manageable sections that flow naturally.  The big question is: what do you want to say?  

How to make a start writing your own eulogy

A straightforward approach to creating your own eulogy would be to have three sections.  

  1. 1
    The beginning introduces you on your own terms.  That could mean solemn, humorous or any point in-between.  As the saying goes, it’s your funeral!  
  2. 2
    The middle section covers some life events, usually in chronological order, so that could reference childhood, adult life (work / family) and later life.  
  3. 3
    The end section could be what you feel you’ve learned from your time on Earth or a mention of those you’re leaving behind.  This part may also include a moment of reflection.  

The importance of writing a eulogy in your own voice

Act naturally.

No one expects you to tell a whole life story in five minutes.  What you can do instead is touch upon key milestones in your life and maybe one or two appropriate anecdotes, bearing in mind the mixed audience and the emotions of the day.  

Writing in your usual speaking voice will give your words authenticity and bring your presence into the room.   

The alternatives to writing your own eulogy

Putting your own eulogy on paper can be difficult.  Aside from the practicalities of finding a structure that works for you and deciding what to include or leave out, it means confronting your own mortality and perhaps thinking about those who must go on without you.  

What are the alternatives if you struggle with the writing?

There are a couple of options that may make the process easier for you: 

1
Record your eulogy instead

Not everyone is a writer, and some people find they can organise their thoughts better by speaking.  Use the voice recording function on a mobile phone, or the free-to-use software such as Audacity which enables you to record and edit your words, plus add music.  It’s just record, cut, copy and paste.  Then you convert the file to mp3 or wav format.

Or why not video yourself using your mobile phone?  For a full belt and braces approach, upload your video to a captioning service.  If the mourners can’t hear you, hopefully they will be able to read you.

2
Write some pointers

Rather than creating the full eulogy, you could write out some pointers.  This could include which people to speak with, some hints about what you’d want to be said, and any phrases or anecdotes you would like to be included. 

What to do with your eulogy once it is written

Whether you decide to write your whole eulogy, just jot down some notes, or record your final speech for posterity, make sure other people know about it and where to find it.  

Once you've had your say keep a copy (always have at least one back-up copy!) with other important documents, such as your funeral wishes, your Will and your funeral plan if you have one. 

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How to choose the right music for your funeral

Music moves us like no other art form.  It enables us to express emotions and form emotional memories, which is especially relevant at a funeral service.  

This guide considers the purposes music can serve at a funeral and where music fits into a ceremony.

Who is this guide for?

  • Anyone planning a funeral who wants music that sets a particular tone 
  • Anyone who wants to know where music occurs in a funeral ceremony 
  • Anyone wondering how to choose the music for their funeral 

Reading time:

 3.5 mins


Where words fail

What is the purpose of music at funerals?

Selecting the right music for your funeral can be a daunting task, especially if you’re a lover of music. So much to choose from! How you begin to whittle down your choice starts with why music is played at funerals.

Music is an integral part of a funeral service and accomplishes several things:

  • It personalises the service by reflecting an aspect of your personality or life. 
  • It sets the tone of the funeral, whether that is formal, religious, or contemporary. 
  • List It uplifts or consoles.
  • It brings people together and allows them to grieve.

How many pieces of music can be included in a funeral?

Typically, three pieces of music are played during the 45-minute average length funeral with a ceremony.  The duration can be doubled for an additional fee paid to the crematorium or place of burial, plus the funeral director for their extra time.

You can, of course, include as many pieces of music as you like during the ceremony – it could be all music - although it is usually interspersed with the eulogy, speeches and readings from family and other mourners.   A Christian funeral service will typically include two hymns.  With that in mind, allow 3 – 4 minutes per piece of music.

How to squeeze more music into your funeral ceremony

One way to include a wider range of your favourite music is to only choose selected verses from a particular hymn, or to ask for just an excerpt to be played from a popular song or a piece of classical music. It’s important to leave clear instructions as to which excerpt.

It’s also vitally important you give details of the composer or which version of a song you want to be played, preferably with the album title. The ever-popular, smooth-as-silk rendition of ‘Over the Rainbow’ by Eva Cassidy might be what you have in mind at your funeral, but if you don’t specify the recording artist you could end up with the version by Me First & The Gimme Gimmes, giving an altogether different feel to your send-off!

At what points is music played during a funeral service?

Music is usually played at the following key points during a funeral service:

1

As the mourners arrive in the space where the service takes place.

2
During a period of reflection in the middle of the service, known as the committal.
3
At the end of the service as the mourners leave.

You may decide to have a song played that meant something to you as mourners take their seats, a more formal piece of music during the committal and something uplifting at the end. It all comes down to personal choice and what you want to convey in the service.

How to convey to your audience who you are through your choice of funeral music

It is possible that not everyone who attends your funeral to pay their last respects will know you well.  

To keep in tune with your audience, your eulogy could be used to help some people understand why a song has been chosen that wouldn’t be traditionally associated with a funeral and ensures your funeral hits the right note.

10 pieces of classical music for funerals as chosen by Classic FM


  1. Barber – Adagio for Strings
  2. Mahler – Adagietto (Symphony No 5)
  3. Elgar – Nimrod
  4. Percy Grainger – Irish Tune from County Derry
  5. Arvo Pärt -  Cantus
  6. Vaughan Williams – The Lark Ascending
  7. Pachelbel – Canon in D
  8. Bach – Air on a G String
  9. Albinoni – Adagio in G minor
  10. Schubert – Ave Maria
Top of the classics

10 hits that regularly top polls for the most popular choice of funeral music


  1. Monty Python - Always Look on the Bright Side of Life
  2. Eva Cassidy - Over the Rainbow
  3. Frank Sinatra - My Way
  4. Andrea Bocelli - Time To Say Goodbye
  5. Celine Dion & Andrea Bocelli - Prayer
  6. Robbie Williams - Angels
  7. Nat King Cole - Unforgettable
  8. Vera Lynn - We’ll Meet Again
  9. Abba - Dancing Queen
  10. Westlife - You Raise Me Up
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Who do you want to lead your funeral ceremony?

If you plan on having a funeral ceremony, someone will need to lead the proceedings and, at the very least, say a few words. Do you have anybody specific in mind? 

We look at your choices of officiant to help you decide.

Who is this guide for? 

  • Anyone planning their own funeral that includes a ceremony
  • Anyone who wants help knowing what their options are

Reading time

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Who gets the last word at your funeral? 

In the not too distant past, a religious minister would lead a funeral service as a matter of course. But that isn’t the case now. A traditional religious funeral is in decline.  For one thing, not everyone in the UK identifies as religious.  

What all this means for you is that you do have the final say about who and how your funeral service is conducted.  The question is who is your preferred choice of voice?

What are the different types of funeral officiants?

  • Religious minister 
    If you consider yourself a person of faith, then it's likely you will choose a religious minister and incorporate your faith into the funeral or memorial service. You’ll want someone who can talk meaningfully about the beliefs, traditions and practices that are important to you.  
  • Civil celebrant 
    Maybe you don’t practise your faith in a formal way, but you’d like some religious elements? A civil celebrant can conduct the funeral service and include religious elements, such as hymns, a bible reading and prayer. 
  • Humanist celebrant
    If you're looking for a religious-free zone, then a humanist celebrant is the way to go.   Or you could simply ask a family member or a close friend to lead the service. In that instance, it would be wise to discuss the matter now and agree clear guidelines about music and any eulogies. Ideally, you want someone who is comfortable in front of an audience and able to project their voice so the people at the back can hear.
  • Funeral director 
    Your family could ask the funeral director to take the service.  He or she may make a charge for this.

It’s a big decision.  It’s worth taking the time to reflect on your personal values and what sort of ceremony best represents you and the impact it will have on the people you care most about.

Remember that regardless of who takes your service, when you plan your own funeral you can leave wishes for what will be said and heard. 

Have you got your funeral wishes sorted?

Download our free Funeral Wishes Planner where you can leave clear instructions for your family about who you would like to lead your service, as well as all the other stuff - even down to your choice of music in the hearse on the way to the funeral!

What are the funeral officiant’s duties? 

If you are inviting a family member or friend to officiate at your funeral ceremony, then you might want to fill them in on their role for the day.

  • The eulogy 
    Writing and reading the eulogy they – or you – have prepared..
  • Event management
    Inviting others who knew you best to step forward and say a few words. 
  • Content management
    Ensuring the readings, poems or prayers and music you want are included. 
  • Time management 
    Making certain the service keeps to time.  
  • Public relations
    If the service is to be held at a separate location, giving instructions as to who is welcome to attend the committal and where it is.  

    And letting everyone know where any funeral reception is being held, along with helpful information such as dietary provisions and whether there’s a tab behind the bar.  It makes it clear where everyone needs to go and what’s awaiting them.  Better that than the awkwardness and disappointment they may feel paying for a drink at the bar when they needn’t have.   

Does a pre-paid funeral plan include the cost of the officiant?

Whether the funeral plan includes the third-party officiant’s fee depends on the type of funeral plan purchased.

There are three types of Plans. All guarantee to cover the funeral director’s fees. The difference in Plan types lies between the level of third-party cover.

  • Guaranteed funeral plan 
    This type of plan will cover the third-party costs for cremation or burial and the officiant fee in full or up to the equivalent amount charged by a Church of England minister at the time the funeral is needed. 
  • Contribution funeral plan
    This type of plan includes a contribution amount towards the cost of cremation or burial and the officiant fee. The contribution amount will grow until the funeral takes place, in line with either the Retail Price Index (RPI), the Consumer Price Index (CPI) or in some other way chosen by the funeral plan provider. Any shortfall will need to be paid by your representative or from your estate  to the funeral provider.  
  • No Contribution funeral plan 
    All third-party cremation or burial fees and officiant fee will need to be paid in full at the time of your funeral by your representative or from your estate to the funeral provider. 

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How to get to your funeral

When you’re planning a funeral, especially your own, it’s surprising how many aspects of the big event you can tailor. Take getting there…


The way you are conveyed on your final journey to the funeral (as well as the route) can help those left behind better understand who you were. You might like to take care of the transport arrangements for loved ones too, so getting to the funeral on time is one less thing for them to worry about.  This guide looks at some of the transport choices available and offers suggestions.

Who is this guide for?

  • Anyone who wants to personalise how they are transported to their funeral
  • Anyone thinking about arranging transport for loved ones
  • Anyone thinking about personalising their final journey within a prepaid funeral plan

Reading time:

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Choosing the right family car

Traditionally a hearse transports the coffin, with the option of additional vehicles (‘family cars’) to convey the chief mourners to the service. These are typically one or more limousines (petrol and electric versions), each of which can carry up to six people, sometimes seven (the passenger seat next to the driver).

Limousines are not essential – some people feel more comfortable in their own cars – but many people appreciate having others to share such a poignant journey.

Taking care of the transport takes care of the people you care about, by removing one stress and worry on the day, ensuring t they’ll get to to the funeral on time.

Some funeral hearse transport ideas

Traditionally a hearse transports the coffin, with the option of additional vehicles (‘family cars’) to convey the chief mourners to the service. These are typically one or more limousines (petrol and electric versions), each of which can carry up to six people, sometimes seven (the passenger seat next to the driver).

Limousines are not essential – some people feel more comfortable in their own cars – but many people appreciate having others to share such a poignant journey.

Taking care of the transport takes care of the people you care about, by removing one stress and worry on the day, ensuring t they’ll get to to the funeral on time.

Some funeral hearse transport ideas

Traditionally a hearse transports the coffin, with the option of additional vehicles (‘family cars’) to convey the chief mourners to the service. These are typically one or more limousines (petrol and electric versions), each of which can carry up to six people, sometimes seven (the passenger seat next to the driver).

Limousines are not essential – some people feel more comfortable in their own cars – but many people appreciate having others to share such a poignant journey.

Taking care of the transport takes care of the people you care about, by removing one stress and worry on the day, ensuring t they’ll get to to the funeral on time.

Prefer to keep things simple? What about an estate car, a Land Rover, or – popular with natural meadow and woodland burial grounds – a bicycle hearse or a handcart?

And if you’re determined to have the last laugh, there’s always Del Boy’s three-wheeler from Only Fools & Horses reimagined as a hearse, or one that looks like the Batmobile.

You can more or less ask for whatever you want.  Essentially, if it’s legal, your funeral provider will try their best to accommodate.

Prices for an alternative hearse will be about double what you would expect to pay for a traditional motor hearse.   If budget is your primary consideration, the lowest cost option is what’s termed a 'specialist vehicle’ or ‘suitable vehicle’ – typically a private ambulance or estate car. 

Procession route: Going down memory lane 

You can specify the route to be taken on the way to the funeral.

Instead of going direct to the crematorium or place of burial, you could leave instructions for the cortege to depart from your place of rest (e.g. your home or funeral home) and take in places along the way that were meaningful to you. That might be the park you walked the dogs, the place where you got married, your favourite pub (also handy for showing people where the reception is!), your local footie ground or a bench where you’ve enjoyed watching the world go by. You could even specify a drive through your hometown on the way to your journey’s end at the crematorium or place of burial. 

The only limitation on where and how far you travel will be if you use a funeral director. The funeral director has services with and without the option to travel a particular route, and within a number of miles – which can sometimes be extended for an extra cost per mile. 

What transport options are included in a funeral plan?

The short answer is: it depends. There are a variety of prepaid funeral plans to suit all needs, with transport or without, and the option to upgrade, e.g. to a horse-drawn hearse.

A plan will include a traditional hearse or a suitable vehicle as standard, and typically up to two limousines. The funeral cortege will start its journey either directly from the funeral home or from outside your home. Some funeral plans offer scope for personalising the journey within a mileage allowance.

Funeral plan providers’ terms differ as to when you can make changes to your Plan - at the time you buy, during, or after a final payment – and indeed, if you can make changes.

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Useful RESOURCES

Only Fools & Hearses - bygc.me/onlyfoolsanrdhearses

Vintage Lorry bygc.me/lorry

Motorcycle Hearse - bygc.me/motorcycle

Trike Hearse - bygc.me/trike

Morris Minor Hearse - bygc.me/moggy

Land Rover Hearse  - bygc.me/landrover

Bicycle Hearse - bygc.me/bicycle

Chevrolet 3001 Pickup - bygc.me/chevrolet

Ford Funeral Handy Van bygc.me/handyvan

VW Camper Van - bygc.me/vw

Fire Engine Hearse - bygc.me/fireengine

Hot-rod Hearse - bygc.me/hotrod

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Is embalming necessary?

Of all the processes and procedures associated with the treatment of a body after death and before a funeral, embalming is the least understood by the general public. 

This guide explains what embalming is (often referred to as 'hygienic treatment'), and why you might consider it for your body after death.

Who is this guide for? 

  • Anyone who wants to know what embalming is
  • Anyone unsure if embalming is necessary
  • Anyone who is thinking about their body being visited by family and friends after they die

Reading time:

 3 mins


What is embalming?

Put simply, embalming is a way of preserving a body’s ‘life-like’ appearance after death and slowing down the natural process of decomposition. 

Is embalming mandatory?

No, embalming is not mandatory.  Your loved ones can still touch you and kiss you as they say their goodbyes if you aren't embalmed.  But there are a couple of exceptions:

  • If you die with a communicable disease you will be embalmed to protect the health of others.
  • If you are to be repatriated overseas. 

The cost charged by a funeral directors today for embalming is around £120.

Why might I choose to be embalmed?

It can be both a practical and an aesthetic choice.

Embalming not only improves the condition of your body after death temporarily giving you a ‘relaxed’ appearance, it can also restore colour tone to your skin.   If you look much like you used to when you were alive, this of course can considerably improve the experience for loved ones should they want to visit you before the funeral.  

4 reasons why you might choose not to be embalmed?

1

Embalming is an invasive procedure.   A chemical solution is introduced into your body.    No internal organs are removed for this process.  

2

There is a possibility that embalming may not restore the skin tone to the one you had in life. (You could end up looking like you have just come back from a two-week Caribbean holiday, when your normal pallor is akin to having taken a weekend break in Skegness ).  And some people notice a ‘chemical odour’ around an embalmed body.  Both of these potential side-effects can cause additional distress to loved ones at a time when they are already coping with their loss.

3

You may choose not be embalmed on religious grounds.  Both Judaism and Islam prohibit the practice of embalming, unless it is a legal requirement. Other religions have a neutral stance.

4

If you are planning on having a green burial, you need to be aware that natural woodland and meadow burial grounds will not normally accept embalmed bodies, due to the toxicity of the chemicals used and the harm it can cause the surrounding ecosystem. 

Embalming is a sensitive subject that some people feel uncomfortable discussing. However, if you have specific questions or would like to know more about it, we suggest you contact The British Institute of Embalmers.

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For more information on embalming, contact The British Institute of Embalmers   

  01564 778991      

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Would you like people to pay their last respects?

After you die, and before your funeral, you may want to give family and friends the option to visit your body to pay their last respects.    

We consider the rationale for it and one or two things about this tradition that you probably weren’t aware of. Read this guide to weigh up the pros and cons and then decide if it’s right for you and for your loved ones.

Who is this guide for? 

  • Anyone planning their funeral, who hasn’t thought about whether they want to be visited after they die
  • Anyone unsure why people want to visit the body in the days before a funeral 
  • Anyone unclear about the benefits that can be experienced by people visiting a body before the funeral

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Is visiting my body before the funeral a good idea?

Unless you are familiar with the custom of going to visit a body in the days leading up to a funeral, the idea may seem strange, scary or perhaps even a little ghoulish.  It was actually a commonplace occurrence in the early 20th century and had a sound purpose behind it. 

Visiting your body can be a valuable part of the grieving process as loved ones literally face death and have to come to terms with its finality.  It also affords visitors some private space to say their goodbyes, away from the shared, public gaze of a funeral.

Naturally, it can be very upsetting to look upon the face of a loved one after death – and that is as it should be.  Grief is love.  Some people prefer to pass up the option to view, and that's okay too.  But the people you care most about may appreciate having the choice.

What are the choice of locations for visiting my body?

Regardless of where you die, there are two primary options for a viewing location. 

1

Visiting your body in the funeral home

Every funeral director has a chapel of rest or service room, which is designed for this purpose.  

The coffin rests on a stand, and there is usually seating available.  Religious emblems can be placed in the room with you, according to your religious beliefs, or the room can be left unadorned.  You may also be able to have photographs or other personal items on display.  If that idea appeals to you, leave instructions for the funeral director in advance. 

2

Visiting your body at your home

The second option is for your body to be brought home for the viewing.  In this instance, you will need to consider who will be responsible for looking after you until the funeral and how they will cope with this.  

We recommend discussing this most sensitive of all your funeral preferences with your loved ones so that you understand how they feel about it, before you let them know why you feel the way you do about it and what you would ideally like to happen.


Can I stop someone from visiting my body before the funeral?

Conventionally, anyone can visit your body, but you are free to specify who can and cannot attend.  You may have valid personal reasons for excluding people from this privilege, which is your prerogative. 

If you intent to buy a prepaid funeral plan, leave your wishes in the notes section on the application form. It may be helpful to discuss the 'guest list' with your family too, so that everyone understands your wishes.

When would visiting the chapel of rest not be ideal?

If you were to die in a manner that caused trauma to parts of your body that would be clearly visible, the funeral director may suggest that a viewing is not recommended.  You could also leave instructions in this instance to inform any decision your loved ones may have to make.

What is the cost to visit my body before the funeral?

The option to visit your body in the chapel of rest is either included in the total cost of your prepaid funeral plan, or not included.  The more basic funeral plans tend not to include the option to visit, although your family may be able to pay for this service at the time of the funeral.

A funeral director's fee for this service today, is anywhere between £100 and £250.  The cost usually goes up if this service is required out of normal working hours.

The option to visiting your body is not included and cannot be added at a later date to the lowest cost Direct Cremation or a Direct Burial service (i.e. a cremation or burial service with no-one in attendance).

The pros and cons of giving loved ones the option to visit 

Weighing it all up, a viewing affords loved ones the opportunity to say their private goodbyes.  Some people say it helps them come to terms with their loss.  Others find the idea too distressing and prefer just to attend a funeral. 

If you consider a viewing to be a valuable element of the grieving process for loved ones, you can specify whether you'd like to be dressed in a funeral gown or in your own clothes.  Mourners often find it comforting to see the deceased in familiar clothing.  You can leave this sort of detail for your family  in our Funeral Wishes Planner which is free to download.

Prepaid funeral plans that include this option are more expensive than other funeral plans in a provider's range.  To keep the cost of a funeral plan down, you could consider a plan without this service and your family could pay for it at the time of the funeral.  You would need to check the terms and conditions of the funeral plan to see if this would be possible.

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Where do you want your body to be kept before the funeral?

An aspect of your funeral you may not have thought about is where your body will be kept in the days leading up to the funeral ceremony.

Although you may already have a preference, this guide looks at some of the practicalities involved to help you make an informed decision.

Who is this guide for? 

  • Anyone unsure about the options for where your body may be kept in the days before a funeral
  • Anyone who is curious about what measures are needed to keep their body at home 

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Where will my body be kept before the funeral?

If you don’t state a preference, and unless your family request otherwise, you will be brought into the care of the funeral director until the funeral.

It’s important to bear in mind that some of the larger funeral companies often have central hubs where bodies will be stored on tiered racks.  If the idea of many bodies being stored in close proximity - and away from the funeral home - concerns you, the best option for you would be to choose a small, independent funeral director with their own on-site refrigeration facilities. (You are still likely to have company, but on a much smaller scale).

Can my body be looked after at home before the funeral?

Yes.  If you die at home, your body can stay there until the funeral.  If you die away from home, arrangements can be made for your body to be brought home.  

If you are taken into the care of a funeral director there is often the option to be transported to your home leading up to the funeral.  And vice versa, should the practicalities of looking after you at home become too much.  This will, of course, add to the cost of your funeral.

Your preference for where your body is kept after death and before your funeral may be based on your religious views or guided by practical considerations.

Whatever you decide, the most important thing you can do is to let your dearest and dearest know what you would like to happen.  Writing down your wishes in a document for your family to refer to when you've gone, can help minimise further stress arising from confusion about what to do.

Can I check a funeral home's mortuary facilities?

Yes.  If you have a particular funeral home in mind and are worried about where you will be kept, then there are a couple of things you can do.

  1. 1
    Ask the funeral director to show you ‘back of house’ (the mortuary facilities) or an inspection report by an independent body to give you some assurance that their facilities are respectful and up to scratch.  (The problem with this option is that it could be some time after you've visited before you need the funeral director's services and their standard of care could change).
  2. 2
    Ask a family member or friend if they could check the funeral director's back of house facilities at the time the funeral arrangements are being made.  If they aren't comfortable with that suggestion,  get them to ask the funeral director for a copy of their inspection report.  If they have any concerns, they should request you are moved to another funeral home.

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How to choose the right funeral director when planning in advance

The two most common factors for people choosing their funeral director are the overall expense and the quality of the goods and services provided.  


When funeral planning,  how do you choose the right funeral director in advance when these factor of cost and service are ever-changing and could be wildly different by the time your funeral is needed?

This guide includes information about the cost of a UK funeral today, what the cost might look like in the future, and some quality assurance considerations when choosing a funeral director in advance of the event.

Who is this guide for?

  • Anyone thinking about using a funeral director and how to make the right choice
  • Anyone who wants to understand the typical cost of a funeral today in the UK
  • Anyone looking to lessen the impact of rises in cost of a future funeral

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Do I need to choose a funeral director when planning in advance?

When you're planning the details of your funeral, you may want to specify a particular funeral director.  Don't have anyone in mind? That's okay. You don't need to choose a funeral director. 

The important thing is that you don’t let your indecision stop you from cracking on with your plans.  Your thoughtful decision to plan ahead can help loved ones avoid the added emotional and financial strain often experienced by bereaved families when having to make the arrangements at the time the funeral is needed.

You don’t have to use a funeral director by the way. Your family can organise the funeral with or without the help of a funeral director or the help of a home funeral arranger.

If you do want to choose the funeral director and are unsure how to select the right one, we've got some key pointers to help you. 

2 things to bear in mind before choosing your funeral director when planning your funeral in advance

Life is unpredictable

Your choice of funeral director today may not have the same reputation, belong to the same independent company or group, or even be around when you finally need them.  

It’s also possible you might move to another part of the country in the future – in which case you will need to choose funeral director. 

Money matters

If the cost of your funeral is going to be a consideration for you or your family, you need to get a feel for the funeral director’s fees before you make your final choice - even though it could be some time before their service is needed.  Do your research.  Ask for a copy of their price lists or go online. 

What most people don't know about funeral costs

Local funeral director’s fees can vary 

by more than 50%,
for the same service,
for the same standard of service, 
even in the same high street.

Funeral costs have risen well in excess of general inflation and are set to continue in this way.  

The cost of a basic funeral today is £4,184.  The total cost of dying is £9,263 - which includes the extras such as flowers, funeral notices, the reception after the funeral and legal fees.   Funeral costs are expected to rise a further 20.6% to £5,044 by 2025.

What you can do to help your loved ones avoid the rise in funeral costs

To avoid needlessly wasting money - due to the continuing above-inflation rise in funeral costs - that's better left in your estate for your beneficiaries, you can set money aside.  

You could consider putting money into a savings account, buying a life insurance or Over 50s policy, or a prepaid funeral plan.  What makes a funeral plan different, is that it fixes the funeral cost at today’s prices and guarantees to pay for your funeral regardless of how much the cost may rise in the future. 

3 key pieces of advice to help you choose the right funeral director when planning in advance

Look for a mark of service quality

Anyone can set up as a funeral director.

Consider choosing a funeral director who belongs to a funeral trade association or certified in some other way for assured quality of service.  In the UK, there are two UK funeral trade associations. Registered members must abide by a strict Code of Practice. They are:

Society of Allied & Independent Funeral Directors Independent (SAIF)
Includes independent funeral director members only

National Association of Funeral Directors (NAFD)
Includes independent and chain funeral director members

Both associations monitor their members’ compliance with a Code of Practice.  This includes a premises inspection and interviews with key personnel. 

Get a recommendation

Ask friends and family for their experience.  

Check online reviews

Back up word of mouth recommendation with ratings and comments on review sites.  To make sure the reviews are impartial,  honest and genuine, here are some things to look out for.

  • Ensure the review site is independent of the funeral industry
    One obvious telltale sign that the review site is tied to a funeral company or the funeral industry, is when the review site only reviews funeral directors and related services, such as Wills. 
  • Scan the rating scores
    If the review site predominantly shows 5-star reviews, ask the site to confirm how the reviews are collected.  Bear in mind that if the funeral director invites the reviewer, it’s all too easy for only happy clients to be asked to leave a comment.
  • Check the rating is for the funeral service only
    Another thing to watch out for on review sites is ‘merged’ reviews.  This is where a single rating is shown, but is for different services and products e.g.  funeral plans, wills, estate administration.  Get in touch with the review site if in doubt.

Can I choose my preferred funeral director when I buy a prepaid funeral plan?

Most plan providers will allow you to nominate your preferred funeral director, but it will depend on the type of funeral plan you buy.  It will also depend on whether your preferred funeral director agrees to take on the plan.

If the funeral director declines to take on your funeral plan, the plan provider will find a worthy replacement (the plan provider's reputation depends on it!) and put forward another funeral director for your consideration.   If you don't approve, keep asking your provider to find another funeral director until you are happy.

Useful RESOURCES

Funeral trade association
Members: Group and independent funeral directors
National Association of Funeral Directors

Funeral trade association
Members: Independents funeral directors only
Society of Allied & Independent Funeral Directors

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What are the different types of funeral service?

One of the few things we all have in common is that one day we will no longer be here. But that doesn’t mean your funeral has to be commonplace. You may be surprised at the many ways you can personalise your final journey.


After you have decided whether you want to be cremated or buried, the next big question is: what kind of funeral service do you want? In this guide we explore your options for a funeral with and without a ceremony.


Who is this article for?

  • Anyone who isn’t sure about the different types of funeral service and ceremonies available
  • Anyone who wants to ensure their funeral service reflects their values and preferences

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Three types of funerals

Broadly speaking, when planning the type of funeral you want you have three options:

  • a funeral with a ceremony
  • a committal-only service
  • a cremation or burial with no ceremony

What is a ‘funeral with a ceremony’?

A funeral with a ceremony typically lasts between 45 and 60 minutes (including the time it takes for people to enter and leave the venue). It can sometimes be extended by the same amount of time again and for an additional fee.

The ceremony is usually led by a minister or celebrant and may include readings, poetry, prayer, carefully chosen music or hymns, and eulogies from family and friends.

The funeral ceremony may be held at the graveside in the case of a burial, in the crematorium chapel, or at some other religious or non-religious venue, and away from the actual place of cremation or burial.

If your plan is to use the services of a funeral director

  • The number of family and friends who can attend will be unlimited
  • The funeral director and staff will be present for the duration of the ceremony


What is a ‘committal-only service?

A committal-only service generally lasts around 20 minutes. (The ‘committal’ is where the final words or a prayer is said before your body is committed for cremation or burial). The time allowed is just enough to include a reading, prayer, or simply a few words. Depending on the location, one or two pieces of music can be included too.

The committal-only service may be held at the graveside in the case of a burial, in the crematorium chapel, or at some other religious or non-religious venue, and away from the actual place of cremation or burial.

If your plan is to use the services of a funeral director

  • The number of family and friends who can attend will be limited to usually 12 people
  • The funeral staff may not be present during this service. In this instance, your coffin will be placed on the catafalque before family and friends arrive, leaving them to have their last moments with you in private.

Funeral directors often refer to this type of service as an ‘Intimate’ funeral. And because the service is pared down, so are the funeral director’s fees.

What is a ‘service without ceremony’?

A funeral without a ceremony is most commonly known as a ‘direct cremation’ or ‘direct burial’. The cremation or burial takes place with no family or friends present. In the case of cremation, your ashes will either be scattered or interred at the crematorium, or returned to your personal representative (e.g. your executor or next of kin).

Separating the ceremony from the cremation or burial gives those you leave behind the freedom to choose if, when and where they would like to hold a memorial service or private party - such as in a hotel, a community hall, a local pub or picnic on the beach.

Going direct is the least expensive of all the funeral types. If your plan is to use the services of a funeral director.
  • Family and friends will not be allowed to attend
  • The funeral staff will not be present for the cremation

With all due ceremony

Unless you want to follow a particular faith tradition, there are no rules regarding what can and cannot be included during a full or shortened funeral ceremony. It’s your send-off, your way – although we would strongly recommend you discuss and involve loved ones in your funeral planning.

Setting the tone of your funeral

After deciding whether you want to be cremated or buried, and if you want a funeral ceremony, a committal-only service or no service at all, the next big question is to consider whether you would prefer the tone of your funeral to be formal or informal.

The good news is that if you’ve been struggling with any of the decision-making up to now, once you’ve made your mind up on those three elements, deciding on the remaining detail for your funeral becomes much easier.
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